Let Go of Self-Consciousness.
Our addiction to getting things done “right” or perfectly leads us to be self-conscious. When faced with a lengthy to-do list, we can become hyper focused on ourselves.
Thoughts like – if I wasn’t so lazy or scattered I would have done half of these things already and I wouldn’t be in this crunch now OR my life is so chaotic and now I’m left to complete all of these items, bubble up easily. We start to feel like we are the ONLY ones who can complete the items on the list or that it would be unthinkable if some of these things do not get completed.
In order to feel more balanced and less panicked, it’s helpful to realize that not everything rests with you. As jarring as this sounds, for some people there is comfort in the understanding that actually, they are not THAT important. What this means is that there are other people who can help you get through your list and it’s ok to ask for help. It means that the world will not actually end if you do not complete every item on the list. It means that you aren’t perfect and not only is that ok, it’s normal! Taking a step back from self-conscious self judgement allows us to prioritize and to actually do more as we spend less time immobilized in panic mode.
Next time you’re caught in a panic about your to-do list, take a breath and take a look within. Are you caught in this self-consciousness? Stop the battle against time, recognize what’s happening in your head and consciously choose another approach!
If you get stuck, give me a shout! I’m here to help!