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Are You Taking Enough Me-Time?

How much pressure do you feel to be “going” all the time? Many people in our culture associate level of importance, success, and popularity with being continually on-the-go.  If we are not hustling, working and putting our energy into something, we believe we are wasting time. We may feel taking time for ourselves is “new-agey”, privileged, or a waste and that it won’t accomplish anything.

To some extent it’s true – continually pushing yourself often brings some measure of success. However, most of the time going for long periods without time for yourself will cost you. Stress, overwhelm and exhaustion are known to crop up and be made worse by periods of being endlessly busy and these things have a very real impact on our mental and physical health.  

Research has linked heart attacks, strokes, asthma, obesity, diabetes, headaches, gastrointestinal problems, lessened immune function, mental fatigue, insomnia, confusion, poor concentration, depression, anxiety, and increased irritability to stress, overwhelm and exhaustion.

Why Is Time To Yourself So Important?

Obviously, the biggest reason to take a little time out for yourself is to avoid the negative consequences of not doing so (like the health problems I mentioned above). But more than that, “me” time can make you happier and more stable, more creative, improve your relationships, and in the end, make you more successful in all areas of your life.

Taking time for yourself can help you be less irritable and enable you to control your emotions. If you live with someone, like a spouse, partner or children, or even pet, they may not understand your need to take “me” time but they (and you) will certainly appreciate the way your moods have improved. Both the people who are close to you and the people you work with will appreciate that you have greater stamina and better ability to concentrate.

Allowing your brain to move into a non-stressed and recharging state may allow you to access more creativity and many people find they like to spend me-time doing creative things -which also boosts creativity overall. 

A lack of time to yourself may contribute to feelings of burnout that are harmful to you and to your relationships. It’s well documented that people who provide care for others and who are unsupported have a higher likelihood of becoming depressed. Obviously if you are caring for others without support it’s a larger issue – however, me-time is a relatively simple way to ensure that you have a minimum of self-support.

We sometimes think me-time is not important because when we take it we may be denying attention to other things that are important to us, such as our family, our friends, our gym time, housework, our career, or whatever else. You may feel selfish taking the needed time out when there’s so much left to do. However, if you’re stressed, overwhelmed, and/or exhausted, and you won’t be able to be fully engaged in your activities anyway. Your health is vital, and if you think these obligations can’t succeed without you, think of what might happen if you become sick and have to set them aside for a longer amount of time. You need a little time to recharge your batteries.

What are the benefits of Taking Me-Time?

Taking a little time for yourself recharges and re-energizes you. It allows you to think more clearly, communicate more effectively, and make better decisions.

Me-time also helps you to let go of self-doubt and builds your self-esteem over time. In an interesting chicken vs egg scenario, prioritizing yourself actually helps you to better understand how important you are! Also, many times me-time leads you to greater feelings of satisfaction as you accomplish tasks that have special meaning to you (like writing something, reading a book, or growing something in your garden). This is a tremendous benefit but you do need to be careful that you don’t make your me-time into another opportunity for you to accomplish goals! A good way to approach this is to commit to only doing tasks and activities where you know you won’t push yourself.

Other benefits include the ability to sleep better, less fatigue, depression and anxiety, greater resistance to sickness, and less tension.

Me-time is necessary and you are worthy and capable of taking it.


Hey! Are you a busy Mom who would like more me-time? Rest assured you are not alone! After talking to over two dozen Moms about the lack of personal time they are taking, I’m passionate about helping out. If you or someone you care about needs more me-time, check out this link and set up time with me!


Using emotional intelligence, mindfulness, and deep listening practices Akiko offers caring and practical support to free yourself from the toxic, punishing thoughts and emotions that are keeping you stuck, so you can have better relationships with yourself, other people, and to the work you do.

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